– Are you I worried that men would be intimidated by you?
– It is exactly the man I would have no interest.
I feel you. I have been there thousands of times, and precisely asked that question. My intelligent feminist side sometimes can’t help falling for the basic cultural instinct of perceiving my purpose in life as finding a man, getting married and laboring children. And I have noticed that in the country I leave, the way my brain works and my personality (sometimes marked by «masculine» adjectives such as rational, harsh or direct) might be an obstacle for that goal.
This is why I smiled so sincerely listening to the answer Chimamanda Ngozi gave to her friend, because even though I had never phrased it like that, her answer is so right for me as well! It makes no sense to polish my girly-personality in order to pretend to be someone I am not. That would never ever last. Maybe I am the one cherry picking here. And it might take me some time to find the right guy for me. For sure he must be smart, not intimidated by the true-me at all and have a couple more aesthetic attributes on my wish-list 🙂
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